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Can Dating Bring Up Marriage Too Early In Your Relationship?
Dating should be a fun. You feel the excitement of meeting someone new. And, as you meet each new person you wonder "could this person be the one?" But, let's face it: of all the people you will date, you will end up marrying just one of them (possible more). So, dating is comparative to a job interview, when you think about it. You only want the right person for the job.
Therefore, be somewhat on guard, it's healthy. Don't be in a hurry to fall in love. Remember, to find your "match" you will need to date and weed out the less than savory characters. They aren't wrong for being themselves. Just wrong for you.
For most of us, this is a completely different way of thinking. Typically, a man or woman will date someone a time or two. Then, that man or woman will try to make the relationship work by minimizing the negatives. Some months or years later-and after the wedding-the negatives build to the point where the couple has severe problems. Problems that should have been discussed earlier and may potentially lead to divorce.
Here is a common example: the situation where your partner brings up marriage after only a few dates.
A Common Situation
Tina and Tom have been dating for only few weeks. They've been on three wonderful dates and now they're having dinner in a restaurant. Just after the meal Tom looks deeply into Tina's eyes and says: "I love you. Will you marry me?" Tina takes a deep breath and...
Wow, a proposal of marriage! The chance to be Mrs. Somebody. Every woman's dream. What could be wrong with that? After all, that's why you're dating (isn't it?). Big problem. In fact, it's a red flag. Some women may accept the proposal, even on the third date. Some however may not.
Instincts are going at a mile a minute at this point. This is a very dangerous situation. They need to slow the relationship way down, or break it off altogether to find a less needy partner.
"I Want To Marry You" - What'S Wrong With This Picture?
If someone starts saying things like "when we get married" or "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" after a few dates, should you be flattered? No, you should be very worried. Run away. No one can possibly make an intelligent decision about a lifetime partner in a few dates, a few weeks, or even a few months. Wait at least a year, make sure you are positive. It's also not a bad idea to co-habitate for at least 6 months. I mean seriously, if you can't live together for 6 months....how can you expect to last a lifetime together?
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